If there’s one thing I’ve learned from moving down south for university it’s this – just because a guy dresses, acts and speaks like he’s the next Gok Wan does not mean he’s actually interested in guys.
Now I know what you’re thinking, why does this matter to me? I’m a guy I can tell when a girl isn’t into guys because she is dressed more masculine than me. (Apologies for the horrendous over-stereotyping but it’s kind of true). And yes granted this post you may consider of little use so feel free to close the tab and go back to whatever it is guys do with their time.
However, if you think there is a possibility that your image runs the risk of airing somewhat on the well-kept, camp side of things you may want to read on.
Here are a few hints and tips to (hopefully) ensure you don’t strike out before you’ve even made it onto the pitch. (That sounded waaay cooler in my head, oh well, let’s still go with it).
The way you walk . Let’s make one thing clear, if you want a girl to be interested in you she needs to think there may be a possibility you’re interested in her and that possibility is also known as your sexuality. Now I’m not saying you can’t prance around like Louie Spence if you want to nor am I suggesting all gay people act in a certain way. However, general rule of thumb, try to inject some masculinity into your walk. Act confident, cool and collected. Don’t get hung up on this though, your walk is like the icing on the icing of the cake. She isn’t going to judge too much if you like to skip to lectures. (I’m lying don’t ever skip – it’s not cool).
Make it obvious you’re into her. Okay so the main thing I personally have noticed since moving to uni is that guys here will be subtle. Now I’m a northern girl, I’m used to guys being as rough as a badger’s arse with a side helping of brutal honesty. I, and probably a lot of other northerners pretending we can hack the South, do not register with your polite, engaging conversation. We do not realise it is code for ‘wanna come to mine’ so you’re gonna have to try and be a tad more obvious guys. (Sorry). It doesn’t need to be anything major though. A bit of physical contact and admittedly cringy flirting will probably do the trick.
In the context of a night out, it’s all in what you drink. Don’t be that guy standing there with a vodka and lemonade. Because that guy always goes home alone. Beer is always a safe bet because it’s naturally associated to guys, cider, functioning as the cheap alternative to beer goes by the same rules. Some may say wine is risky ground, but my advice would be – don’t use a wine glass (talk about #classy) and make sure you drink a good 3/4 of the bottle. That’s right, supporting alcoholism and binge drinking since 1996.
Anyway, sorry this wasn’t my best post…I’m tired and stressed and kind of wishing I was drunk. But hopefully, if you are the kind of guy who has more blurred lines than Robin Thicke (vom, so cringe) next time you’ll manage to at least stand a chance pulling that girl you’ve been stalking in the student union for the past six weeks.
Peace Out x